- Today I’m recording another session with my mother who was born in India in 1954. We dive deeper into her relationships with her parents, talk a little more about the early parts of her marriage, and about her university exams. Some of this information is also new information for me.
- We get side-tracked a bunch and my mother’s words can be non-linear due to her intense anxiety.
- I have sent the recordings to my mother, sister, and brother to get their approval before publishing and to ensure anything they wanted edited out got edited out.
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- My mother also gestures wildly with her hands at times which I find quite charming but it does result in the mic getting frequently bumped so please bear with us.
- Please keep in mind, this is experimental content for me. My relationship with my mom is complex and *riddled with intergenerational trauma*, and it is still a relationship between a child and their mother.
- As a relationship, it’s still critically important in understanding where I come from and how I relate to intimacy. It informs my anxiety and how I struggle to experience strong family connections. In the absence of those strong relationships, it makes sense to have found so much peace in relationship anarchy, giving me the permission I needed to forge intense or intimate relationships with nonsexual and nonromantic partners. In a sense, Relationship Anarchy is a recipe for building Found Family for me.
- Content warning: we briefly touch on my grandmother’s suicide attempts involving hanging and fire and the consequences that had emotionally for my mother.
- Did your parents have many friends when you were growing up?
- What were your friends like at school?
- What was it like being married in India?
- What were your siblings’ dating relationships like?
- What was your parent’s relationship like?