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This is the first episode of season 2. I’ve changed a lot about the show and switched the focus of the discussions from Scripts (episodes 1 through 6) to Emotions (think emotional intelligence and emotional management). 

If you’re a masculine person as I frequently am, anger is sometimes frightening to others, especially if they’ve seen masculine violence which is likely. In today’s session we’ll ask guiding questions like “where is it safe to express and process anger” or is your anger productive, useful, directed appropriately, and from your immediate situation. We’ll discuss strategies and share anecdotes.

I’ve also attached links to books that we discuss in the podcast which were for me life changing and to the Adverse Childhood Experience or ACE survey. Links are provided to the CDC resource page dedicated to ACE survey results.

Nonviolent Communication (3rd edition) provides a needs-based framework for relating to others – I consider it essential for non monogamy. I heard the audiobook version first and found it invaluable in establishing a healthy sense of boundaries.

Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal helped me find some meaning and camaraderie in my early traumatic experiences. If you experienced childhood trauma, I encourage you to get the book. It goes over research connecting physical and psychological issues and suggests strategies on healing. Again, I prefer the audiobook version.

The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma is on my reading list but I haven’t gotten to it yet. Over 100 reviews at 5 stars makes it sound like excellent additional reading if you’re looking to do some deep work, especially on traumatic stress, it’s probably a good guy. Agai v n, there’s an audiobook version.