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Do I Need an Accountability Pod?

Why Create a Pod? Having an Accountability Pod normalizes mistakes, promotes/models best practices, and reduces shame around consent incidents. It is a safety net for when you miss something or mess up. It eases the social friction in a community from the harm we...

Core Values Exercise

Questions Which people do you respect most? Why? What do you think their top 3 most important values are? When you think of behaviour you dislike or find irritating, what 3 values do you think lie behind them? When you think of ways people describe you, what do you...
Gender and Orientation, An Introduction

Gender and Orientation, An Introduction

The above Genderbread Person v3.3 describes Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Biological Sex, Sexual Attraction, and Romantic Attraction. All of these terms are different and until you have a vocabulary of gender and attraction, it’s hard to describe what you...

Kink Primer

If you haven’t already, consider reading my New Connections Primer. I also published a Sexy Fun Primer. Why Kink? Kinksters come from a variety of backgrounds and practice kink for a variety of reasons. Kink is an incredibly powerful vehicle for self intimacy. Getting...

Relationship Values

This is part two of a primer intended as an introduction to one perspective on having healthy, ethical relationships. The first part is here. This series as written in 2015. All opinions are my own and do not reflect a supremacy or One True Way position. Questions are...

What Are Relationships?

This primer is an introduction to one perspective on having healthy, ethical relationships. All opinions are my own and do not reflect a supremacy or One True Way position. Questions are given for self reflection as a courtesy for those who want to go deeper....

Healing: A Trauma Survival Guide

I believe my community would benefit from a three pronged best practice model of consent: prevention, perception, and healing. Healing A healing guide is an enormous undertaking as every situation is quite different and people are quite different – victims, abusers,...